I had a conversation recently where the person asked me if I thought Tommy and I were too young when we got married.We were both 25 when we exchanged vows; engaged for about 2yrs. I was in college when Tommy proposed and he asked my dad for his blessing. My father only asked that we not get married until I finished school. A reasonable request.
Tommy proposed, I said yes of course and we took some time to set a date since I had a year of college remaining and I wanted to get a job and work to save money to be able to pay for the wedding with Tommy. I graduated, passed the nursing board exam, landed a hospital job and we decided on November 12, 1995.
In retrospect, I don’t believe we married too young but I did have growing up to do. I was judgmental and did not always speak my mind at the best time. As a nurse I had no idea what/where I wanted to work and I had no confidence.
Tommy was so good, he still is. Over the years he taught me quite a bit. You show someone you love by actually doing; putting the other person first and having extreme consideration for your spouse. Just a few lessons I learned from an excellent example setter. My husband is very giving, warm and has such a generous nature.
Marriage wasn’t perfect for us. Throw a special needs child and then 3 girls in the mix. You grow up even faster. Learn more than you ever thought possible. Not to mention you now wear multiple hats that switch on and off incredibly fast.
Tommy and I talk about being humbled. Some people are never humbled, they just walk around like they never experienced anything that brought them to their knees. And it shows, not in a good way. Thomas humbled me. Man did he ever. Judgmental attitude; out the window! I learned very quickly to speak up in a very stern, compassionate, educated manner and at the right time.
There’s always something new to learn and ways to grow.
Menay O; mom to 4, Christian and thrift shopper on the side... 